Upacara Mandi Bunga

This is one heck of a late entry. Just realized next month will be the sixth month of our wedding monthniversarry. It is rather worrying how I haven’t managed to sort out the wedding album. Meh.

Today, I will share with you some photos of the Upacara Mandi Bunga (Direct translation from Malay to English: Flower Shower Ceremony?) which took place a few days before the wedding.

It was done solely to keep the tradition alive and it makes the wedding more memorable. Back then, the ceremony was done to ward off negative auras and cleanse the wedding couple. They say after a flower bath/shower/whatever you coin this ceremony, the wedding couple will look stunning and glowing with positive aura. Oh yeah, not forgetting, smells good from all the flower.

My opinion? I’m still looking for that glow or ‘seri’. Haha. All I got from the mandi bunga was a cold shock. Imagine having an cold outdoor shower on a cold day. Brr… Also, it was a bit silly of me to forget to request for flowers with scents to use for the ceremony. Oh well, it is the thoughts that count!

Enjoy the photos!

 

I should have worn something better. It crossed my mind there would be photographers and videographers to record the whole ceremony.

I should have worn something better. It crossed my mind there would be photographers and videographers to record the whole ceremony.

 

Perhaps too early to function. I still remember this day very well. Earlier on, my grandmother on my uncle’s side (I have many grandparents, very complicated to explain…) helped me with the body scrub treatment. The scrub paste is homemade, rice grains with fresh turmeric. She said I should have done weekly treatments months before in order for my skin to look absolutely glowing for the wedding day. Well, now I know, you know. So, bride to be’s, book that spa treatment early and do it often! :P

 

My mum and grandmother carrying the bucket of flowers to the shower ground. I wanted to help but they said the bride should relax. I still managed to look bossy though...

My mum and grandmother carrying the bucket of flowers to the shower ground. I wanted to help but they said the bride should relax. I still managed to look bossy though…

 

Some families have this tradition where they prohibit the bride to be and the groom to be from seeing each other a week before the wedding. I guess this tradition differs from one family to another.

Some families have this tradition where they prohibit the bride to be and the groom to be from seeing each other a week before the wedding. I guess this tradition differs from one family to another.

 

In the olden days, most weddings were results of matchmaking. Thus, explains the origin of this tradition. The wedding couple would only find out how their partner would look like on the day of the wedding solemnization. Initially, I thought of doing this but it would be inconvenient. During the final few days before the wedding, both Aslan and I were so busy with last minute preparations. Hence, it is not so relevant. Even my paternal grandmother told me not to bother with it. With smartphones, it is kinda irrelevant. Can Skype bah. Or FaceTime. Hehehe.

 

Candid

Candid

 

I was laughing at Aslan because he had his sarong up so high and was told to tie it lower around his waist. Hehe. I stopped laughing when I was told to take off my top and just pull up my sarong higher. Note: I was wearing a one piece swimsuit underneath.

 

Flower power!

Flower power!

 

"Oh God, please, make this cold water warm..." Haha. Just kidding, I was asking for His blessings.

“Oh God, please, make this cold water warm…” Haha. Just kidding, I was asking for His blessings.

 

I was screaming inside. Maintain lah since this was being filmed...

I was screaming inside. Maintain lah since this was being filmed…

 

Aslan sure looks excited here

Aslan sure looks excited here

 

Aslan's main concern about the shower was showing off his man boobs. I told him, it is normal for him to have man boobs, what is not normal if he didn't have any at all...

Aslan’s main concern about the shower was showing off his man boobs. I told him, it is normal for him to have man boobs, what is not normal if he didn’t have any at all…

 

Aslan's expressions to me at that time: "We should do this more often..." Hehehe.

Aslan’s expressions to me at that time: “We should do this more often…” Hehehe.

 

Me posing 'ayu' or feminine.

Me posing ‘ayu’ or feminine (While trying hard not to shiver too much)

Aslan in a manly pose.

Aslan in a manly pose.

 

The after ceremony pose.

The after ceremony pose.

 

As much as we enjoyed the ceremony, nothing was more awkward than having an outdoor shower with spectators and filmed on both stills and video. Once in a lifetime, indeed! Hahaha.

I will post more wedding related entries as soon as I sorted out the albums. Till then,

Love always,
E.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Dress

Back from the honeymoon and now browsing through bazillion photos of the wedding. I will feature some highlights but for now, I would like to share a photo of my favorite wedding dress…

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Four months since the big day and the dress still fits. Relieved beyond words could ever express!

Blog more soon!

61 Days and Counting

Hello my dears!

I have been away for quite a while these days. I wonder where has my blogging mojo disappeared to, oh, I do miss my old glory days of blogging. Forgive me for I have been very very very occupied with work and planning the wedding (What else, right?)

I have to admit, I have a lot on my plate these days. Life has got too hectic and at times, chaotic. I’ve been sharing more of my life on my private Instagram account. In my opinion, Twitter and Instagram definitely killed my blogging mojo. Another reason for my decreasing interest in blogging is privacy issue. Maybe I perasan (A malay word to describe a vain or paranoid person, depending on the context) too much that somewhere out there, I am being stalked. Whoa. I value my personal life so much these days, I am kinda reluctant to share it with the world.

Maybe I care too much about other people’s opinion. Well, this is my blog and if those people don’t like it, well, hard cheese. So, anyway, here are some quick updates in the life of me… In pictures of course:

 

A sneak preview of our pre-wedding photo shoot. Credits to Fazli Taufek

A sneak preview of our pre-wedding photo shoot. Credits to Fazli Taufek

 

Oh dear. Pre-wedding photo shoot is harder than I thought. Believe it or not, I am very camera shy. When someone else takes a photo of me, I am always awkward looking and stiff. Thank you Fazli Taufek for being so patient with us.

 

DIY facial treatment. I have yet to find a suitable place to get my bridal spa done.

DIY facial treatment. I have yet to find a suitable place to get my bridal spa done.

 

I’ve been told by my relatives I should go for bridal spa. Apparently, I need a whole lot of massaging (To burst all the unwanted stubborn fat and firm any areas that ought to be pointing and sticking out like the bum and boobs for instant), scrubs (To get rid of unwanted impurities and make me very fair), steam, bath and facials (Dark under circles, uneven skin tones, puffy eyes, zits etc)  in order to be the perfect trophy bride for the wedding. Honestly, this does not bother me at all but when I really give it a good thinking, I feel obligated to look perfect. *In denial*

 

Still in the process of getting the right design for the invitation card

Still in the process of getting the right design for the invitation card

 

I am absolutely frustrated with the printing industry in Kuching. The amount they charge for a decent looking luxury-ish card is absolutely daylight robbery. Excuse me, RM15 for a lousy card? My arse. Without a doubt, the invitation card shouldn’t cost too much. Shouldn’t be too fancy. But hey, everyone’s a critic! It is hard to please people and Aslan and I are quite tired. If those critics provide some sort of help, we wouldn’t mind the comments. But, as usual, talk only mah. *Rolls eyes* We found a good printing company in Kuching and we are still tweaking the invitation card here and there.

Another issue that irks us very much is our choice of color. For the wedding reception, we’ve chosen red as the theme. And the comments came rolling in the moment we chose red for the invitation card (So it will match the wedding theme).

“Red… Isn’t that too Chinese?”

Goodness. Up to now, I don’t know how to react to such remark. It is ridiculous. Red reflects passion. It is luxurious. Prosperous. Full of energy and youth. What’s wrong with choosing red? Just because we’re Malay, doesn’t mean we have to stick to ‘Malay’ color such as green or brown. That’s plain racist. Meh. At least we didn’t choose any neon colors for the wedding, that would be a grand sight! Hahaha.

 

 

I am 85% confident that I will achieve the almost perfect bridal body. Taken during the Easter weekend in Singapore

I am 85% confident that I will achieve the almost perfect bridal body. Taken during the Easter weekend in Singapore

 

I’ve been pushing myself more in terms of dieting/exercising after finding out I have two freaking months left before the big day arrives. I have my reasons why I want to lose more weight. First of all, it is not about vanity. I mean, looking good is part of losing weight. :P The real deal is health. You see, after the wedding, Aslan and I intend to start a family as soon as we can. (Frankly, kinda weird to be discussing about my ovaries online… Hahaha) My ideal weight is 73kg while my current weight is 83kg.

Some people would argue that at the height of 177cm, my weight is actually decent but I beg to differ. I am still overweight. One day, when I am expecting a baby, I predict that I will gain at least 10kg (Or more but I hope not!) and that 10kg will be a hell of a bitch to get rid off unless I do something about it now. Therefore, if my weight were to be 75kg at time of pregnancy, after birth, I would be around 83-85kg. Besides, an ideal weight plus BMI will ensure both safety for mother and child.

 

I work out underwater, y'all. Just kidding lah.

I work out underwater, y’all. Just kidding lah.

 

I wish I could be more hardworking but the most I do is jogging and well, lifting weights (Or what I call shopping for groceries… Hahaha. Just kidding!)

 

Still busy with choosing things for the bridal room. Almost done.

Still busy with choosing things for the bridal room. Almost done.

 

Our future love nest is finally taking shape and we are very happy with the renovation. The only thing left is furniture shopping. The hard part is not over yet! Been going around so many furniture stores and ohhhhhh, where do they sell awesome resort theme furniture in Kuching??? So sad. Wish us lots of luck!

Anyway, will blog more soon, I have so many things to settle before jetting off for a friend’s wedding this weekend.

Love,
E.

P/S: I am thinking of changing my domain to something more me. I am getting tired of the Borneo Girl. Another sign of aging, I suppose? Boohoo…

 

 

Of Honeymoon(s)

After every congratulations regarding the upcoming nuptial, the first thing family/friend would ask is, “So, where’s the honeymoon going to be?”

I think that question is expected. Before the engagement, the question was, “When are you two getting hitched?” After the wedding, I bet people will be asking “Pregnant, yet?” After kids, “Any plans for more kids?” and more questions relating to the children after that. From this, I can say that people’s expectations are completely too high.

If money was not an issue, Aslan and I would have spent ten days or more just doing completely nothing at the beautiful and heavenly island of Bora Bora in Tahiti.

 

Ah, this is the life. Just lazing around under the sun and enjoying the gorgeous views of what Mother Earth has to offer in Bora Bora.

Ah, this is the life. Just lazing around under the sun and enjoying the gorgeous views of what Mother Earth has to offer in Bora Bora.

 

Anyway, Aslan and I have chosen a few destinations for the honeymoon. We both have different views of what makes a honeymoon. Hence, our honeymoon destinations feature a wide variety of activities to cater to our needs.

The reason why we have a couple of destinations instead of one is due to the fact we both want to see the world before we settle down and have a family (Or tied down to work).

Ten days after the wedding, we will leave Kuching for somewhere down under for a couple of days. A short honeymoon thanks to Air Asia’s promo seats! What would we do without budget airlines?

On the second day of Raya Aidilfitri, we will fly to halfway around the world for the second part of the honeymoon and our third wedding reception with Aslan’s mum’s family.

From there, will fly to another country across the pond to continue the third and epic part of our honeymoon. It will be a mixture of city and island life. Oh, I can’t hardly wait!

Lastly, before heading home, the last part of our honeymoon, in the land of K-Pop and Kimchi (Among other things).

After typing all this, I must be crazy for dreaming up all these things. Hahaha.

Seriously loves, Aslan and I are not 100% sure about our honeymoon destinations. You will just have to wait and see!

Love,
E.

Bride to Be Update

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Wearing my favorite dress from H&M

 

  • A tad slimmer compared to last year. Seriously need to do something about the flabby tummy. Not sit-ups because I did try and I ended up with muscle pain in that region.
  • I have given up my dream to be a Snow White bride and have embraced my lovely light honey or beige tan. My love for the sun is too strong!
  • My hair is getting longer and I pray that somehow, my hair will be long-is on the big day itself. I don’t expect a miracle but maybe hair extension could be one possibility.
  • I need to sort out the blemishes and dark/sun spots all over my face.
  • Tempted to try a full body wax. I’ve been told to go for the Bridal spa every two weeks for lulur, body massage and whitening scrub.

 

Never knew being a bride to be could be so hard. I thought it would be effortless. Oh well, what is life without a few challenges?

Love,
E.

Of Weddings

The moment Aslan proposed last August, I knew my world would never be the same again. For one, I am engaged (Not officially but technically, engaged) and secondly, since that moment on, probably 70% (or more) of my brain space have been taken up by wedding ideas and planning.

Crazy but true.

The moment I wake up, right up to just a few seconds before I sail to dreamland, the A-Z of weddings occupy most of my mind. I haven’t reached the zombie bride-to-be state (yet) but the wedding is the sun and I am the earth that goes around it.

 

I wonder if the bride to be is the same person or not when she turns into a bridezilla?

I wonder if the bride to be is the same person or not when she turns into a bridezilla?

 

Some people would poke fun at me and tell me to take a chill pill but it ain’t easy as it seems.

Top three reasons why planning a wedding is significant to the bride to be:

  1. Unless you plan to have another grand wedding in the near future, most people, would only have one wedding in their lifetime. Wedding anniversary or wedding vow renewal is a completely different story. Therefore, since a wedding does not happen all the time, might as well make it memorable not only for the couple but their families too.
  2. Some people do not mind their families to plan their wedding. In most cases, whatever planned turned out great but in some cases, people often wondered, who’s wedding was it actually? The wedding couple or their families? Sure, families are most welcomed to help but surely, they ought to know the limits of their help. Sometimes they have the tendency to forget what the occasion really is about and kinda drag other irrelevant issues into it. For instance, insisting to use this certain vendor  and whatnot, no matter how mediocre the product or service is, just because they are related to the family. Don’t get me started on family members who think they are the best wedding planner in the world. Yes, it would be a shame not to use the RM45 a kg prawn for the feast but seriously, are you chipping in the wedding cost? People who talk big but don’t do anything are freaking annoying. Luckily, my family members are awesome people. Phew.
  3. Financial woes. To be honest, as much as I want to have the most ridiculously beautiful (aka just crazy expensive) wedding, I’d rather save the money. I do not want to be burdened with a debt just because of the desire to have such grand wedding. Something moderate and classy will do just fine. A wedding is a celebration, so, regardless of how it is done, so long as Aslan and I are officially married, becoming husband and wife, who gives a damn about people’s expectations?

I have about five months left before our special day arrives. I’ve been asked whether I am stressed already. It is unpredictable. Sometimes I am calm, and the next moment, completely freaked out. I guess that’s normal. Right? Hehehe.

So far I have tackled these big fishes in the sea of wedding planning:

  • Dates and venues
  • Photographers and videographers
  • Bridesmaids
  • Make-up artist
  • Wedding dresses and shoes
  • Barang hantaran
  • Pre-marriage course

The fishes I have yet to tackle are a mixture of big and small:

  • Caterer for the solemnization and bersanding ceremony (Need to wait until the meeting this Sunday)
  • Bridal room at Aslan’s place (Meeting up the contractor today)
  • Design of invitation card
  • Pre-Wedding photography
  • Invitation guest list (I have done about 30% and they are all just friends so far)
  • Wedding application
  • Door gifts
  • Pelamin

As for wedding themes… Is there a need to have a theme? Is it really important? Aslan and I can’t think of a theme but just us. The theme of our wedding is simply us. And maybe because of the fact that a themed wedding could cost more. Haha. If people desperately needs an answer for our wedding theme, I’d have to say, Gold and Silver. Hey, it is still a theme, isn’t it?

Oh well, cheers to a sane bride when the time comes,

Love,
E.

I Got a Hammer.

What an odd title but it has something to do with today’s entry. Obviously not in a literal sense, more of a metaphor. I am now officially booked by Aslan. In Sarawakian Malay term, already bertekol or loosely translated as ‘being hammered down’. Haha.

Showing off the bling is obligatory.

The bertekol or more commonly known as the merisik ceremony in West Malaysia is where the boy’s parents as well as their siblings, would come over to the girl’s house and ask her parents for her hand in marriage. In those days, a big number of marriages were usually arranged. That is why there is a need for the merisik ceremony. It was usually done without the girl’s nor family’s knowledge, so they could find out whether the girl is a suitable candidate. For example, when the merisik party arrived and the girl was in the kitchen doing chores, she would be considered a good candidate and if she was just lying around and not helping out with the chores, she is hopeless. That was how things roll back then. Today, however, is a different story. People don’t really do this anymore, they usually skip it.

Traditionally, the boy wouldn’t be allowed to join the ceremony but tradition can be altered a bit. Aslan was present and not only me received a ring, he did too! Hillarious. We exchanged a total of three gift trays.

His and her’s gift trays

This is just a small fish compared with the bigger fishes we would be tackling next. So many to dos in my wedding planner, wish me luck!

Love,
E.

P/S: I will update this post with more photos. Stay tune!

All the engaged ladies (Put your hand up!)

Apparently, Aslan planned the proposal for over a year. As I said in my earlier entry, he thought of proposing on a lovely cruise around the Mediterranean (Exactly like my I-am-just-joking definition of the perfect proposal).

Being more of a logical thinker than a dreamer, he proposed in Singapore instead as he didn’t want to get the wrong ring size.

Aslan almost propose with a packet of diamond but he thought that would be so unromantic. So tacky. So cheap.

I am 100% clueless of what are the specifications for the ring (Like carat size, diamond grade etc) but I must admit, it is the most beautiful object I have ever seen in my life! Wait, let me rephrase that. The engagement ring is the most beautiful object I have ever received in my life!

So, after proposing, the next day, he brought me to Lee Hwa Jewelry at Somerset 313 to get my ring finger measured.

Nerdy me after sorting out the ring measurement…

It was ready just one day before we were to fly off to Glasgow.

Still speechless everytime I see this ring around my finger. Ineffable.

He even suggested I should get an insurance for the ring. It scared when he said that. I hope he doesn’t spend ALL of his savings for this. I am absolutely fine with a simple ring… A ring is just a ring, can’t marry it. Hahaha.

“You can’t put a price tag when it comes to love…”

*Blushhhhhhh*

Will blog more soon,

Love,
E.

He Put A Ring On It!

Aslan finally proposed to me last night, just before midnight. He took me completely off guard. Well, I knew he would propose one day but never thought it would be so soon!

Before he proposed, he asked me, “In your point of view, what is your ideal wedding proposal?”

Pulling his leg, I answered, “On a cruise around an exotic location and the moment you proposed, Angels will sing, the sun shining forming a halo on us, unicorns with wings magically appear and Atlantic emerged from the deep sea, restored to its former glory.” Then I laughed hysterically. He looked quite annoyed at my playfulness.

“Just kidding, it does not matter how, where, when etc, so long as you mean what you ask, that is perfect enough for me.”

“It does not have to be too elaborate nor perfect, what matters most is us together, always in love…”

He then held me in his arms and looked deep into my eyes.

It was then I realized he was about to propose.

Suddenly, I felt like the whole world just stopped spinning. I thought I knew how it would feel but expectation cannot beat reality!

In nanoseconds, so many ifs came to mind. I began to wonder, am I really ready for this?

It was almost like I was on the edge of a cliff and I had two choices; retreat to my comfort zone or jump into this new but uncertain journey in life.

“Effadylia Affendi, will you marry me?”

With a blush and a big smile I said yes.

This is the real deal, not just a playful status change!